Most people who come in to see me usually wind up uttering a version of this in the first weeks: “This is not how I thought my life would turn out.” They seem unaware that many of us have felt this way at one time or another.

People are hurting when they make a call to a therapist. They’re “stuck,” and yet anxious about the therapy process. They want change. But how to go about making it happen?

Life is by definition unpredictable. No matter how we plan or adequately prepare for it, it comes down to sorting out the difficult from the more difficult when decisions have to be made, an effort often best facilitated with the help of an unbiased third party.

Perhaps you’re dealing with the loss of a relationship or are mourning a job lost – a job you loved and needed. Possibly you and your spouse are at a tipping point in your relationship and need help clearing the air in order to get back on track. Or maybe you’re the parent of an adult child who’s abusing substances and don’t know what to do or how to help.

Some people say they’re feeling particularly anxious about the state of the world and would like to know if it’s possible to create what I call “an oasis of contentment” in its often chaotic atmosphere. It is possible. In fact, it’s necessary in order to live an optimum life where one can thrive, rather than simply survive.

If you’d like a better quality of life but are not quite sure what that is or how to get there, I can help you sort things out and find that better path. A better “plan” for your life as it is now and will continue to unfold in real time, today.